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10 percent…..

Hey I’m gonna preach again on quality time so just let me get up and go grab my soapbox ūüėČ

God commanded Israel to give him 10 percent of all their first fruits. That is not very much to ask.
What if we took that a step further though, what if….we tithed 10 percent of our TIME as well.

What would happen if you devoted 2.45 hours each day to your husband and children?

Advent season is upon us, what is advent season? It is the season of anticipation, a season we spend eagerly awaiting the birth of our Savior right? Yes…that’s right. I think we should take just a moment though to reason together about this though, because it really is much deeper than it seems on the surface.

Christ came down from heaven, he was born, so that he could recapture our hearts and reconcile us to him.

What if we took that 2.45 hours each day and used it to recapture the hearts of our spouse and children. What if we gave that time completely to our families, no distractions…..turn off the cell, turn off the iPad, turn off the Facebook and twitter. What would happen?

What if we used 1 hour of that time as I said yesterday and gave it to our spouse and then the other 1.5 hours we devoted as a whole family doing something together that brings us closer together. Having dinner together, reading stories, making Jesse tree ornaments, bible readings for advent season….there are endless possibilities. What if we did that?

What better season than advent to recapture the hearts of your family and reconcile ourselves to them, forsaking everything else. Sure you might have a good marriage, a great family life…..but could giving them that 2.5 extra hours each day really hurt???

Nobody ever ended up in marriage counseling complaining that their spouse gave them to much time and devotion.

yanno, he just loves me to much…everyday he gives me an hour of undivided attention and he prays with me and over me….and SHE…SHE makes sure to make my favorite meals and turn off the cell phone and iPad and give me her undivided attention and she ALWAYS sits next to me during that hour…..

And nobody ever ends up in family counseling saying, well that 2.5 hours a day of undivided attention is just to much!

my parents they spend an hour together and then they spend an hour and a half with us, and we aren’t allowed to use cell phones during that time and we all have to eat dinner together and we have to talk and associate and make crafts and play games and one time……one time they even took me to see the Christmas lights!!!!! HOW DARE THEM!!!

What will happen, is you’ll find your family stronger, even if it was already strong.



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On the road again……

I’m taking the kids and running away… Continue reading


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Pearls of Great Price

Matthew 13v 45-46

Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:
46 Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it


God looked upon me as a pearl of great price, this is why he redeemed me through his son Jesus. He redeemed me not because of anything I could ever do to deserve such a wonderful gift of grace and mercy but because he saw his creation (me) in desperate need before I was even created.

What was it that he saw in me worth redeeming?

I have no idea, I suppose he saw a person created in his own image who would die and go to Hell unless he made a way to reconnect with me. When I think about this great parental love that our father God has for us, I can only begin to imagine that he feels more love towards me than I do my own children even….and that is hard to comprehend considering how I love them so.

When I look at my children, I see myself ( in image…because they look so doggone much like me its unreal), they are a part of me…at their core they bear my imprint (genetically speaking). My children are my own pearls of great price, I would give all that I am, have, and ever will be for them…right down to my very life. When I reflect upon this I can only begin to think….God entrusted their lives to ME….he loaned them to ME for such a time as this, that THROUGH them I could grow (as they grow) and be sharpened (as iron sharpens iron) and they too could grow and be sharpened. Homeschooling is but a tool in my Master’s hand for growing and sharpening me, it is a challenge but luckily for me his mercies are new every morning!

What are you willing to sacrifice for your pearls of great price?

When God called me to homeschool, I had a lucrative career, free babysitter (my mom), and I could reasonably afford all of the finer things that life had to offer for my children. I could have paid for a fine private christian education, I could have had a little more “me time”, as so many moms like to call it.

When God called me, he asked me to sacrifice all of that in exchange for this beautiful chaotic mess! Would I quit my job? Would I keep my children home with me and teach them of Him? Would I educate them academically AND spiritually? Would I sacrifice my “me time” in order to provide them with more of me?

When God called me….he was asking HOW MUCH ARE THOSE PEARLS WORTH?

How much are those pearls worth? How obedient are you willing to be? Are you willing to go and sell all that you have in order to purchase these pearls? Will you sell out completely to follow MY calling on your life? Will you exchange your will for MY will? Are you just playing the part of obedient follower or are you REALLY obedient? How MUCH are those pearls worth? Are they worth sacrificing for? Do you see them as I see them, the same way I see you? A child who is worth investing in, a child who is lost and needs direction, love, attention, worth sacrificing for. Do you see it? Are you truly treating them as if they were your pearls of great price?

a pic from the first days of homeschooling below, my babies and my nephews.



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Back To School (How do you plan? When and how do you begin?)

It’s July guys, time to start all the “planning” for the upcoming school year (or not).¬† As you know I do not “plan”, instead I document the things we accomplish.¬† Sure, I have a vision and a purpose for the school year, I simply don’t “plan” out my days step by step.¬† Maybe that is¬† what works for you, for me though…it leads to tears, breakdowns, and stress.¬† So here’s to you!¬† As you plan (or don’t) for your upcoming school year.¬†¬† So far I have 1 and only 1 plan, I will begin school on August 1.¬† We will initiate this school year by beginning with Language arts (reading, vocab, Latin) for 1 hour each day and 1 hour of math each day for the first week (broken into two 30 minute sessions).¬† The second week we will add Social Studies lapbooking (45 mins – 1 hour) into the mix, the third week we will add science lapbooking (45mins to 1 hour), by the 4th week we will be hopefully in full swing each day covering reading, writing, math, science, social studies, and Latin (and of course Bible, but we never take a break from those lessons).¬† As you can see, I prefer easing into the school year slowly.¬† How do you plan or begin your year?


Isaiah 54:13  All your children shall be taught by the LORD, and great shall be the peace of your children.



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His Grace…..Why Won’t We Let It Be Sufficient?

Paul said he prayed three times about the “thorn” in his flesh and the Lord answered and said ¬†“My grace is sufficient, my power is made perfect in weakness”.


Well, I don’t know about you but I’m about as weak as water. ¬†You’d THINK that God’s grace would be super sufficient for me right? ¬†I..being fit for nothing much….have been suffering with a bad case of the “Martha’s” ¬†on and off for a while now. ¬†If I made a list….just of the last 8 years…..it’d go something like this ¬†ASIDE from the divorce I endured with my kids’ father


May 14, 2004  diagnosed with Melanoma stage 3 of 5   10 days before my oldest son turned 1.  

(conceived my daughter in Jan of 2005, delivered her in Sept of 2005


April 2006- ¬†My son was diagnosed with initially=== a brain tumor…..and for 2 weeks i couldn’t breathe.

May 2006- ¬†Ooopsie…nope not a brain tumor…just cystic fibrosis….

June 2006 ¬† Oopsie AGAIN….not cystic fibrosis…….Severe Primary IGF1 deficiency

August 2006 ¬†Nope….not spigf1d ¬† Severe Growth Hormone Deficiency


September 2007- ¬†My daughter was diagnosed with GH Deficiency…..same story with the insurance.

I began dating my husband (he really is a god send I believe…..like a kinsmen redeemer he came and he took full responsibility for me in my “widowed by divorce” state….he took my children…he took me….he provided for us…he always has)


MAY 14 2009…(yea 5 years to the day) ¬†While celebrating my cancer is gone day b/c I was cancer free on the anniversary of the melanoma diagnosis …. i got the phone call…..cancer again….

May 20 2009— ¬†Metastatic Cervical Cancer…..you need surgery….a radical hysterectomy/oopherectomy


I refused to do it before my sons birthday…..he was turning 6….he was “more than 1 whole handful mommy now I am a whole handful and 1 more finger” he said ūüôā ¬†

I refused to do it before I had one more vacation with my family at the beach……so I scheduled it for July.


November 2010….Black Friday…4am…on my way out the door to go Black Friday Shopping—– RIIIIIIIING…..RIIIIIIIIIIIIING….I jerk the phone up thinking it will be my mom saying shes up and shes decided she will go……

“Is this Shallon?”

“Yes, who is this”

“This is dispatch, there has been an accident…your brother is hurt badly, wings are in the air….Ronnie is on the way in” ¬† (My brother is sheriff’s deputy)

“Is he alive?”

“As far as I know he is alive…..they have the jaws out there now, he was in a high speed pursuit when the accident happened, he was with *J*…..it’s bad, you need to contact your parents and meet the wings at the hospital”

Walking into the hospital….the first thing you do NOT want to see is a gathering of other deputies some of whom are so upset they’re crying. ¬†You do NOT want to see…both the Sheriff AND the Chief Deputy standing in the hallway…..I nearly lost it. ¬†I went in first because…well, that’s what my brother would’ve wanted, he wouldn’t have wanted our mother confronted with this before it had been first censored through me…..I am tougher….I just am.

My brother almost left us that day……10 inches…..that was the distance between life and death that day….10 more inches forward….killed on impact….it was a miracle….the vehicle had been airborne…it had twisted PERFECTLY into a position that prevented direct impact of a huge tree into my brother’s door….it was a miracle. ¬†He has since required surgeries to correct injuries etc, but other than physical deficits and some post traumatic stress…..he seems well.

April 2011….we had moved….we were closing on our new home. ¬†We had our things in storage….the storage unit flooded….we lost EVERYTHING we needed inside our home….furniture, mattresses, silverware,sheets…you name it. ¬†Insurance did not cover “flood” ¬†so…..there ya go


May 24 2011….my sons birthday….his party is at 6. ¬†130pm my phone rings to my mother in laws frantic screams…..”DADDY FELL DADDY FELL HE’S HURT BAD, BAD, OH GOD I THINK HIS NECK IS BROKEN, HE’S DYING”

he didn’t die…..he spent 15 days in the hospital with a broken neck, and then moved in with us for a few weeks.


June 2….2 days before my mothers birthday, 1 day before my nieces graduation party (theyre twins) to be held at MY HOUSE bc inlaws are living with us and father in law is not ambulatory….4. days after my parents 39th anniversary. ¬† I gave them a call to let them know how my father in law was doing…..my mother answers the phone….I can tell she is crying.


“Something is wrong with daddy but he wont let me call anybody, Im scared”

I’m on my way….I’m calling my brother right now….I’ll be there in 10 minutes

‘Whats wrong daddy”

‘Huh? ¬†nothin….I just got up…you’re here awful early” ¬†(its 3 in the afternoon)

‘Whatve you done today dad?”

“Nothin….I just now woke up, what are you doin out so early?” ¬†(he’d been in the yard knocking around, picked up some sticks, taken a shower, sat in the swing, visited with family, and a number of other “things)


June 3 2011 ¬† Dad is diagnosed with a brain tumor…..

“Dad….Jake is on his way….we are taking you to the ER, I am concerned that you’ve had a stroke”

(dad was 58 at the time)

June 10, 2011- ¬†Dad’s tumor is benign PTL….but still scary


August 2011…..our renters destroyed our rental property…..it took 2 months to clean up.


January 2012- ¬†I had walked in to pick the kids up…..I lagged a few minutes socializing, not realizing that in the vehicle….my husbands heart was in an arrhythmia.

when I got in the vehicle….I noticed his head was leaned back…the seat was slightly reclined….he was pale…and sweaty. ¬†It wasn’t hot…why was he sweaty? ¬†He was holding his arm….feeling his pulse (he’s a cop too so he knew how to check his pulse) ¬†


“You okay?”

“I think so….”

“You look like you’re gonna vomit”

“I’m alright”

“Well you’ll never believe………………………….” ¬†

I launched into my story of running into someone while picking the kids up.  Later, still looking weak, I asked again if he was okay.  

“My heart stopped…..for like 30 seconds”

“you’re lying….your heart could not have stopped…you’d have died……you’re exaggerating”¬†



The next morning in the shower…….it happens again. ¬†This time….longer and more serious. ¬† I dragged him into his doctors office……they ordered tests. ¬†His heart REALLY was stopping….more like PAUSING….or “backfiring”…..A-FIB. ¬† His thyroid was the cause they said so they put him on synthroid and off we went happily ever after….




They felt something….a little “goiter” maybe, on his thyroid. ¬†I pressed them to ultrasound it, bc I am not okay with having a lump in my body that isn’t evaluated. ¬† Last Friday, he went to have the U/S b/c he’d put it off…..MONDAY—-they called….


“We need you to come in to discuss what we have found on your ultrasound”


“ok…but no need to worry RIGHT?”


“you just need to be here….day after tomorrow first appointment we have you down….don’t miss it”


to be continued………

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