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A Plea

I have a plea, an appeal……I realize my readership is not very wide but I feel that it is made up of people who seem to care about others. So here it is.

We live in a first world nation, but here centered directly over the Appalachian Mtns. is a 3rd world bubble. There are people in this area (coal country) who genuinely, by no choice of their own, are without food to put on their tables. We have decided to create a food pantry at HealthWagon, I realize that you cannot very likely mail canned or dry goods to HW however you could go online to


And click DONATE (its tax deductible) in the upper right corner, we will use the donations to provide healthcare to the uninsured and UNDERinsured and will also provide food vouchers (purchased w donations) to the local grocery for those without food.

In this season of giving please help us help others, thank you!

And thank u to those who are praying for my daughter!



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I’ve not abandoned ship!

I haven’t abandoned ship, we r in midst of health crisis w the baby girl. Update after her surgery. Thanks!


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What is it about women??

Romans Ch 1 verses 30-32
30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

Guys listen, I’m under no illusion that I’m perfect. I have done loads of not nice things in my lifetime, I could list several but honestly….God has forgiven and forgotten, so why would I need to recount them here? I’m not saying I’ve never been guilty of gossip, I’m sure as a teenager I probably did help perpetuate some…..but the thing is as I’ve grown up (I’m 30) I’ve grown in wisdom as well and as I have God has taken away from me the will to gossip. In my lifetime God has allowed me to be the victim of gossip many times, and through that I have been refined in many areas. So, while I can’t stand a gossip….I have used their hurtfulness to my advantage,

What can you possibly learn from a gossip? A backbiter? An unmerciful friend? A implacable friend?

Quite a bit actually…..

I learned to conduct myself in a manner so that when someone slanders me, nobody believes it.

I learned to guard myself against even the slightest appearance of impropriety.

I learned that not everyone who claims to be Christian bears the fruit that proves it.

I learned that women, more than men, are bent towards backbiting.

I learned that if someone consistently is backbiting and gossiping to you, then as soon as you’ve passed on by them they’re backbiting and gossiping about you.

I learned that a friend who is unmerciful towards others, will be unmerciful towards you as well.

I learned that you shouldn’t bother to attempt to placate the implacable friend, the issue is very rarely what you aren’t doing and more likely what they are lacking.

I have a question though, for you my readers…..

What’s your take ??? What do you think makes women more bent towards this than men? What is your experience with these issues?



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Saint Mommy The Martyr

mom, mama, mum, mummy, mom, mommy, mumma, mom, mom, mommy………..

Sometimes I look at my children after a particularly hard day and I tell them that my name has now changed, they may now call me ANYTHING except MOM or MOMMY. I really don’t mean I’m not their mom anymore, I just mean…..I need a break from being pulled at, tattled to, and yelled for. I usually sit the kids down and make them declare a 30 minute TRUCE or ATLEAST a ceasefire for the thirty minutes prior to my husband arriving home from work. I send them off to their rooms telling them not to speak to each other or me unless the house catches fire or they are bleeding ;). They know what I mean by that….they know I’m still mommy, I still love them but mommy needs a few minutes alone to prepare for dad to come home.


Ladies, you need that few minutes….everyone needs it. We need to take time to go check the mirror and see how rough we look from the battles of the day and fix that. We need to take time to look in the mirror, did we wear this outfit yesterday (and the 2 previous days as well)? Go change! Then MAKE YOUR Bed and LAY ON it and close your eyes and MENTALLY PREPARE yourself to greet hubby and be WIFE.

Maybe, you’re like me….my husband is Deputy Sheriff and he works 2 mos of days(6a-6p) and 2 mos of nights (6p-6a). When he is on the overnights, I usually take the kids off to the library to do their schooling…it helps the house be extra quiet and he can rest, I make the effort to be home around the time he usually wakes up and when his feet hit the floor, school is o-v-e-r.

I’m not saying WORSHIP your husband, I’m just saying remember you’re more than just a mom.

I’m not saying worship your spouse, all I am saying is we need to keep in mind that our MARRIAGE is the foundation upon which our families are built. If we aren’t taking TIME to invest into being good wives…then in our folly, we are tearing down our own house. I’m not a super good submissive wife, I’m definitely a “type A”, I don’t have to be super good, I don’t have to be a doormat but I am required to invest my time, efforts and energy. as much or more into my marriage as I do my homeschool!

Ladies, I know we were designed to nurture!

Ladies, I know we were designed to nurture! I mean for Pete’s sake, we are the carriers of the children, we have the boobs, we do the feeding! I get it! I too carried my little ones in my womb and gave them their lifeblood, I breastfed (4 years in a row TANDEM). I understand. Your children were born, laid upon your chest and you looked at them and thought

THIS is my entire world

One by one as each child was born, each became your world, your center, your focus, your LIFE. My 2 likewise are all those things to me….but we must be careful to remember that there is more in our lives than just our children.

Kids are great! But one day…they grow up and leave and cleave to their own spouses

Our children are great, we would give them our last breath, last bite of food, last drop of water, donate our hearts to them, we would sacrifice it all for our children. Lets get real though, that is rarely required and we don’t need to go around sacrificing our marriages at the altar of teaching little Johnny arithmetic…..or teaching little Susie to read…..and certainly not at the altar of building our childrens “self confidence, self image,…whatever you want to name” up so far in importance that they overtake the very foundation upon which they stand….our marriages!


Allow your children the privilege of seeing what a healthy marriage looks like, so that one day they too may enjoy and reap the benefits of one. Your children will live what they see at home.

Do not become Saint Mommy The Martyr

Don’t let your kids see you be Saint Mommy The Martyr sacrificing all…your time, your efforts, your energy, your marriage at the feet of the altar of themselves. Instead give your kids 23 hours a day sure but RESERVE at least 1 AWAKE hour every day and devote that hour to having time with your spouse….turn on a movie, let it be your babysitter, go sit in the next room and even if all you do is lay your head in his lap, or his in yours, and even if all you do is fall asleep holding hands for that 1 hour…..you have set the example. You have shown your children that your marriage is important, it is vital, and you are INVESTED in it. Not only that but you’ve shown your SPOUSE that he/she just as important to you as your children and your homeschool.

NO CHILD ever ended up in counseling complaining that their parents loved each other to much

It’s true…..no child ever ended up as an adult in therapy saying “gosh yanno, my mom she just loved my dad to much and they took this hour away from me everyday and they just went in the den and made us kids stay in the living room and they sat in there and had a conversation! Would you believe that!! They went in there and held hands and talked and they told us not to interrupt them! They sat in there sometimes and all they did was hold hands and fall asleep! ABUSE, ABUSE AND NEGLECT I say”

Uhmmmm, are you seeing how absurd that would be? NO child EVER ended up damaged because their parents loved each other and devoted time to their marriages……so stop what you’re doing….catch a nap time, an hour after bedtime, an hour before awake time….just whenever there is an AWAKE HOUR and don’t you dare tell me your spouse is never awake at the same time you are……and devote that hour to strengthening your marriage even if that hour is spent just sitting down savoring the quiet ;).




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Quantity Time or Quality Time?

Quality time is something mothers who choose to ship their child off to daycare strive for. Quantity time is what is REALLY/em> important though. Why? Because if enough quantity of your time is invested in your children then you’ll be ther when the quality time happens by. You just can’t schedule quality time, quality time just happens in the midst of things, in singular moments…just living life – Melanie Young

What a nugget of wisdom!! I love this woman! She nailed it!! You can no more schedule quality time than you can schedule when your child will learn a certain concept! It just happens one day by chance after much prayer and many trials and a whole lot of effort. Quality time is the same! You invest and invest and invest your time into your child and then one day out of the blue in a split second you see the pay off…..late one evening in the midst of doing a million things you find yourself lost in conversation with one of your children. Not because you’re sitting around the dinner table, not because you’ve setup this “date” with your child, no it’s just spontaneous and you were lucky enough to be present when quality happened by.

Rest assured sweet mamas, don’t stress over quality time…..just focus on quantity time, invest invest invest,be there as much as possible through your homeschooling efforts and just know in your heart that quality time will happen by much more frequently when the quantity of time is being invested!

What a great day with TOS Magazine at their event!!


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It takes a very brave soul


Oh I admire you, it takes such a very brave soul to homeschool!! I could never do it myself though, my children would never listen to me!!

I wouldn’t say bravery is the issue here, I wouldn’t really say I have more patience than others, I wouldn’t even say that I am “such a good mommy”. What would I say? A few things actually.

I’m not brave. I wouldn’t even say I am strong minded, nor would I call myself disciplined. I don’t have loads of patience (I don’t sound or act like a Duggar). I would not even consider myself an exceptional mom.

So….what makes me so different than them?? Why am I able to homeschool children and have an end result of well behaved and hardworking children?? Why do my children love to read and often read more than one thousand pages in just a few days?? Write this down……because if you’re a newbie, a parent considering, or even just a public school parent watching in awe, here are the secrets.

1. I don’t make them sit at a desk or table or even in a chair


2. I don’t have lesson plans or standards to meet or consider myself failed
3. I am not trying to meet the common core standards of learning
4. I don’t freak out if we skip a day

5. I don’t freak out if are behind in one subject (or even if it were all of them)


Children are not miniature adults, they don’t require desks or cubicles…..they need freedom to explore. I don’t need lesson plans because my children are naturally curious (and so are yours believe me) so they will naturally question and explore the world and learn from it. I’m not trying to meet common core standards because thus far, we are by far exceeding everything they have to offer. I don’t freak out over missing a day because even on my worst day, it’s still better than anything the public school can offer. I don’t flip of we are behind in writing, because they’re excelling in everything else.

In short, no I am not brave…..

Entrusting your child’s education to complete strangers who tie them to desks, confine them within 4 walls, expect them to learn more from books than from experience, and require them to read about everyone else’s experiences, experiments, and adventures instead of having/doing their own…..is a concept so foreign, so unreasonable to me that I just can’t fathom it……so no, I’m not brave, I just happen to think I am a way better caregiver/teacher/protector thn any government employee will ever be.





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I was tired of being an island….

Obviously I am a people person, if you’ve read my blogs and paid attention, you see how I carry this on more like a conversation than a documentary. I like people (most of the time), and I would describe myself as a social butterfly so to speak. I can spot a homeschooler from over 100 feet away, and I WILL (yes I will) approach them, shake their hand, introduce myself, and yes occasionally I force them out of the “bunker” (if they’re that type) and make them have some human interaction. Continue reading


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